Where is your soul calling you deeper?
This is the question. Not what else can you do, or who else do you have to become. You are at the threshold of leading your life and calling from the deepest truth of who you are. That’s where this work begins.
sjálf means "self" in Icelandic.
Somewhere along the way, we learned to survive by becoming who we needed to be, moving away from who we are.
The perfectionist.
The people pleaser.
The over-achiever.
The caretaker.
The one who never asks for help.
To name a few.
These adaptations aren't flaws. They're often the very things that got us here. But there comes a point when the strategies that helped us survive begin to limit how fully we can live, lead, and express ourselves.
This is that point. And the way through it is not shedding who you've been but returning to who you are beneath the surface.
Inspired by the Icelandic landscape— where fire and ice coexist— sjálf is devoted to that return. For the woman who is ready to live, lead, and create from the deepest truth of who she is.
Ways to work together:
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1:1 Coaching
For the woman ready to be held with the same depth as her vision.
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Category of One
An 8 week 1:1 journey for cycle breakers, leaders, and visionaries closing the gap between who they are and how they lead.
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Workshops & Events
Ready to bring in a somatic, trauma-informed facilitator into your community, workshop, or event? Me too.
The women I work with aren’t unhealed.
They’ve done the therapy. Learned the language. Have awareness, tools, and insight. Many of them are soul-led leaders and entrepreneurs, pioneering new ways of relating, moving, and shaking up their worlds.
They don’t need more awareness. They need a new way to hold the vision when fear, pressure, and uncertainty get loud. That’s exactly what this work is for.
Want to know what's better than reading about it?
Experiencing firsthand.
I'm offering complimentary coffee dates this summer. Let’s have an honest conversation about where you are, what's calling you deeper, and what might be getting in the way.
My name is Iris.
I am the mind and mirror behind sjálf.
I know what it is like to be on the never-ending healing path. To be a lifetime learner, always taking in more knowledge, tools, courses, and insight, yet still feeling a disconnect when it comes to actually living and leading from your center. My work inhabits the space between who you are and what you do as a woman who is here to share her medicine and magic with the world.
This is why sjálf goes deeper than “coming home to yourself.” It is what happens as we move from insight into integration.
This work begins in the body, and moves outward into how you live, lead, and move from coherence.
Human accolades:
Certified breathwork and somatic facilitator with trauma-informed training
A business coach and visionary with over a decade of experience in business operations, management & marketing
Launched a successful start-up in 2016, serving as the youngest (at 25 years old), sole person of color, and only woman on the board
A degree in Communication and Anthropology, with a concentration in marketing + an obsession with Jane Austen’s Pride & Prejudice
Eldest daughter, lifelong writer, truth-teller, and empath. I’ve spent 30+ years alchemizing a childhood trauma story into a rich, fulfilling path of reminding others that healing is not your life purpose
Mother to two young daughters who continually teach me the profound wisdom of presence
Whole woman
sjálf is the intersection of all these aspects of my life and work— a space devoted to integration, internal coherence, and the bridge between insight and embodied leadership.
If you feel it in your bones, you're in the right place.
What women are saying about our work together:
Iris’ superpower is an acute awareness for what is needed in the moment and how she adapts to it. She understands the mission and greater vision. She sees the deeper “why”.
N.B.
She just looks you in the eyes and you know, right away, that she sees you. She sees beyond whatever it is you're trying to prove or convince yourself. I open up. I get to be me. Our work together has shown me I am my own safe space.
Jennifer
Iris is the spark that you're looking for. She is supportive, motivating, and a joy to have. I no longer feel that I am alone.
Lisa T.
Thank you for helping me shine. Now I know, I am what it takes.
E.A.
Iris’ approach to breath and body connection is so refreshingly gentle and intuitive that I feel every woman should experience this work. In a fast-paced and busy world, this was a beautiful reprieve that provided the inner peace my body and soul had been craving.”
Rachele K.
You have this magical way of making the unseen in me SEEN. And it sets something in me on fire, every time!
Maria S.
Your work is so important. I won’t ever stop thanking you.
A.S.
You always end our sessions asking if I feel complete or if there's anything else on my mind, and I honestly don't think I've ever felt not complete. And I think that's because you're a magical empath who knows what's good with each of your clients, in the moments you share with them.
Andraya S.
Magic. Pure magic.
R.M.
Somatics. Self-Leadership. Soul in full expression.